To put it lightly, the younger girls in my life make up a huge chunk of my world. I’m the oldest of four siblings; A big sister to a beautiful two-year old little lady. I’m also currently a nanny to three wonderful little girls. I mentor a lovely young woman of 15. All of this factors into me realizing I have quite an amazing responsibility on my hands. In everything I say and do, I am setting an example to young eyes and ears, more with actions than in my words. In saying this, I’d like to share with you the top ten things I wholeheartedly hope I can pass down, now or even twenty years from now, to those looking up to me:
1. Be good to others. Forgive. Smile at strangers. Realize that he/she is just as human as you are.
2. Be good to yourself. Forgive. Smile at the mirror. Realize that you are just as human as he/she is.
3. Cherish your family. Every year you grow up, you’ll realize you’re needing them a bit more than you thought you did the year before.
4. Don’t be a rock-thrower. Remember that you too are always still growing and learning. Somebody thinking or doing things differently than you does not make them bad or even wrong. It simply makes them different than you, and that in itself is beautiful. You’ll miss out on getting to know a lot of awesome people if you’re always busy judging them.
5. Love your body. Accept your flaws. Admire yourself in that new outfit or in absolutely nothing at all. Hold your head up high and shake your booty. Know that you are beautiful, and don’t ever be afraid to show off this confidence to the world.
6. Wait until you know it’s right. Sex is a big deal. Like it or not, it’s powerful and emotional stuff that makes your rational thought-process all kinds of blurry. I rarely meet a girl who started young and hasn’t stated she wished she would have waited longer. Respecting yourself and your comfort-level is a much better feeling than one you’ll ever get from some silly boy. And here’s one of the only things I have learned solely from experience: Holding out for the right guy to come along is so worth it. Oh. And have you watched Teen Mom lately?
7. Don’t let fear rule your life. Sometimes doing the things that scare you half to death are the same things that truly make you feel the most alive. Playing it safe is really just postponing the inevitable anyway. You’ll most likely get your heart-broken and you’re most definitely going to die. Might as well go out in style.
8. Go to college. At your own pace and financial stability—But go. You’ll make, on average, 20k more a year than those who didn’t. Plus, you’ll gain new friends, more confidence and amazing experiences.
9. Be independent. Work hard. Make your own money. Make your own friends. Have your own opinions. Be with someone because you care about them, not because you need them.
10. Don’t forget to have fun. Travel. Laugh every time you think something’s funny. Don’t keep a job that makes you miserable. Do what makes you happy, and what you love doing. Don’t let others people’s opinions or the hustle and bustle of life stop you from having a blast.