I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stumped by this for many years. And then I realized, you just say, “Hi.” They may ignore you. Or you may marry them. And that possibility is worth that one word.
8 Reasons I love talking to strangers:
1. I’ve met some of my closest friends (and my husband,for that matter) by striking up conversations with people I’ve just met. I find it hard to imagine what my life would be like if I wasn’t such a blabber-mouth with a love for taking chances on others. One of my close girl friends was once asked how her and I got to be friends. She responded with something along the lines of, “Well, Christina just talks a lot…”
2. It keeps me open-minded and always with a new,fresh perspective on life. The reason we usually judge others is because we don’t understand them. The reason we don’t understand them is because we’re not talking to them. Properly communicating makes loving so much easier.
3. I don’t understand or like boundaries. I personally can’t stand the fact that I can’t just walk up to someone and say, ‘Hi. I need to pee. Wanna be great friends?” Why not? We’re all people. We all pee. If I think I want you to be my friend, why can’t I just tell you so? Who made up these unspoken rules? I don’t see the need to beat around the bush. It frustrates me. But because my ideal world isn’t socially acceptable and I’d probably scare lots of people, I start off with random,casual conversation and take it from there. I also seem to have inadvertently passed on my way of thinking to my five-year old brother. He’s known for starting conversations with cashiers by saying, “Hi, My name is Joshua Thomas Cirotto. I’m five years old. This is my mom. And this is my sister. What’s your name?” We are most definitely related.
4. You know how some people get anxiety if they talk to people they don’t know? I’m the opposite. I get kind of antsy if I’m not talking to people I don’t know. Thus I am an obsessive complimenter and if I meet you for the first time, be prepared for me to possibly vocally like your purse, shoes, shirt, dog or eyelashes.
5. This world is wonderful to me. There’s endless adventures—so many places to go, so much to do and feel and taste and live. It becomes just a little more wonderful if I feel connected to those around me. We’re all living in this big ‘ole universe together. Might as well get to know those we’re sharing it with.
6. Because I’m a thrill-seeker; It’s equal parts exciting and terrifying to me that the random person I’m talking to could love or hate me, could give me funny looks or a smile, could turn away or could become a lifelong kindred spirit.
7. Because I want to hear everyone’s story. Because I want to know what makes a person who they are. Because finding what we have in common despite our differences fascinates me. Because to me, part of feeling alive is talking to others who are alive right beside me.
8. Because once you talk to a stranger, really, they’re not a stranger anymore. And that simple fact is beautiful to me.
I’m pretty smitten with the below video. I went around Austin/Texas areas filming random people. Most all of the people on video were people I had just met or barely knew; The fact that so many openly and happily let me record them with my camera/phone makes me smile. People are awesome. Don’t ever forget it!