8 Reasons I Love Talking To Strangers

I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stumped by this for many years. And then I realized, you just say, “Hi.” They may ignore you. Or you may marry them. And that possibility is worth that one word.

Augusten Burroughs

8 Reasons I love talking to strangers:

1. ย I’ve met some of my closest friends (and my husband,for that matter) by striking up conversations with people I’ve just met. I find it hard to imagine what my life would be like if I wasn’t such a blabber-mouth with a love for taking chances on others. One of my close girl friends was once asked how her and I got to be friends. She responded with something along the lines of, โ€œWell, Christina just talks a lot…โ€

2.ย  It keeps me open-minded and always with a new,fresh perspective on life. The reason we usually judge others is because we don’t understand them. The reason we don’t understand them is because we’re not talking to them. Properly communicating makes loving so much easier.

3. ย I don’t understand or like boundaries. I personally can’t stand the fact that I can’t just walk up to someone and say, ‘Hi. I need to pee. Wanna be great friends?โ€ ย Why not? We’re all people. We all pee. If I think I want you to be my friend, why can’t I just tell you so? Who made up these unspoken rules? I don’t see the need to beat around the bush. It frustrates me. But because my ideal world isn’t socially acceptable and I’d probably scare lots of people, I start off with random,casual conversation and take it from there. I also seem to have inadvertently passed on my way of thinking to my five-year old brother. He’s known for starting conversations with cashiers by saying, โ€œHi, My name is Joshua Thomas Cirotto. I’m five years old. This is my mom. And this is my sister. What’s your name?โ€ ย We are most definitely related.

4.ย  You know how some people get anxiety if they talk to people they don’t know? I’m the opposite. I get kind of antsy if I’m not talking to people I don’t know. Thus I am an obsessive complimenter and if I meet you for the first time, be prepared for me to possibly vocally like your purse, shoes, shirt, dog or eyelashes.

5.ย  This world is wonderful to me. There’s endless adventuresโ€”so many places to go, so much to do and feel and taste and live. It becomes just a little more wonderful if I feel connected to those around me. We’re all living in this big ‘ole universe together. Might as well get to know those we’re sharing it with.

6. ย Because I’m a thrill-seeker; It’s equal parts exciting and terrifying to me that the random person I’m talking to could love or hate me, could give me funny looks or a smile, could turn away or could become a lifelong kindred spirit.

7. ย Because I want to hear everyone’s story. Because I want to know what makes a person who they are. Because finding what we have in common despite our differences fascinates me.ย Because to me, part of feeling alive is talking to others who are alive right beside me.

8. ย Because once you talk to a stranger, really, they’re not a stranger anymore.ย And that simple fact is beautiful to me.

I’m pretty smitten with the below video. I went around Austin/Texas areas filming random people. Most all of the people on video were people I had just met or barely knew; The fact that so many openly and happily let me record them with my camera/phone makes me smile. People are awesome. Don’t ever forget it!ย 


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31 thoughts on “8 Reasons I Love Talking To Strangers

  1. Tessa says:

    Hookah dude w/ the lobes was cute. Where was that??? Hmmm???? jk….sort of.
    Well I tried your tactic of talking to everyone and it didn’t go so well. You’ve got something about you that calms people down and makes them feel comfortable. I’m tense so I tend to make ppl tense I think. ha! Especially when I troll them in a car and ask if they need a ride. < — creeper

  2. This is a wonderful post Christina – and I think we must be related! ๐Ÿ™‚ I talk to strangers all the time; I compliment ladies on their clothes or handbags and I’ve even told men that they smell nice! (though once when I did that the man looked at me and said “I’m married” LOL) I can’t stand to be in an elevator with one or two others and not say something and I always chat to taxi drivers – there are unbelievably fascinating stories behind most of the foreigners driving taxis. Last w/end I started talking to a hearse driver as I was walking past the church – the hearse was a fabulous blue colour and I couldn’t not comment on it. Ah yes, life would be boring if I wasn’t digging into other people’s lives.

    • lol – I got that “I’m married” response to an innocent comment too. I was from a brand new coworker (my desk was next to where they got their ID’s and I’d chat up all the new employees). I was sooooo happy when I finally met his wife and got to tell her that story.

  3. I love this post! Talking with strangers is something I’ve been trying to do more lately. Otherwise I just tend to get lost in my head and ignore the world around me. Yeah, my thoughts are pretty great, but strangers can be awesome, too!

    • yes! totally agree. it’s so easy to say that someone is just ‘stuck-up’ or something of that nature, when really they’re just very introverted and need someone to bring them out of their shell. Extroverts like us seem to do the trick ๐Ÿ˜›

  4. Love it!
    I talk to strangers if I’m in a certain kind of mood. Most of the time, I’m in some sort of bubble I like to call “My Own Little World.” I’m completely oblivious to people around me. That’s largely due to the conditioning I found to be necessary, living in The Bahamas where men constantly make noises and try to talk to every passing woman. Yeah. I blame it on my nationality/citizenship/country. In other countries, I definitely randomly chat people up. Lol.

      • “Rob’s girlfriend Kristen Stewart viesitd the set didn’t she?”, Christina said that she did a few times and that she was there when Rob had a birthday. (Of course, we know it was actually Kristen’s birthday.) Then when asked if Kristen was there when they shot love scenes, Christina said no she wasn’t and that it is considered “Bad manners” to be on set when your “significant other” is shooting a love scene.

  5. I’m 100% with you on 1-5, then 7-8. I’m not a thrill-seeker, quite the opposite. I’m eccentric (as I’ve been told since I was little by EVERYBODY unless they use the words “crazy — but in a good way”).

    I’m told when I was still in a high-chair, I’d see an adult walk up and ask them to “come on in and have a cup of tea or coffee.” I don’t know if it was “just me” or the fact that my Gram raised me and she talked to EVERYBODY, too! I’ve become a bit less out-going, too. Like you, I’ve learned it freaks some people out. I try to assess the situation, is everybody standing there, saying nothing? If that nothing goes on too long, the party starts. I can’t shut up for very long! Best place for me to shut up is the DMV. That’s because I hate being there and everybody stands in queue complaining bitterly to whomever they have on the phone. They sort of scare me, so I stand there quietly.

    • i’ve been called ‘eccentric’ AND ‘crazy in a good way’ too! lol. i guess i’m an eccentric thrill-seeker?
      yeah me and quiet don’t get along well at all, and breaking the silence is so fun!
      i can’t shut-up for very long either. so hard. ๐Ÿ˜›

  6. Meg says:

    8 Reason I Love Christina Cirotto Boudreaux

    1. She is the biggest individual I have ever met! I mean this figuratively haha. She is not a follower and so eccentric hot I can’t contain myself. She marches to the beat of her own drummer.
    2. She is my best friend in the world. Ten years and counting she has been there for me through thick and thin, even when I have been the best friend I could be.
    3. Every time I see her I find myself saying “I can’t remember the last time I laughed this hard”
    4. She can’t drive. (also on the list of reasons Christina Cirotto Boudreaux drives me crazy…it’s less than 8 bullets no worries)
    5. She is always trying to be a better version of herself. That takes a strong person.
    6. She takes the initiative. I never really worry about her succeeding.
    7. She is open minded. So much so she is open minded to close minded people–I need to work on that.
    8. She’s really good at loving. Loving life, her husband, her friends, her family, her school, strangers, her job, rain, sun..and probably a lot of stuff not many more people love.

    ๐Ÿ™‚

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